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I have a friend named Christy whom I consider to be my "girlfriend". I live in Colorado, and she lives in Illinois. We met on deviantART in 2004 & we've IMed & MySpace'd one another all the time ever since. We talk about music & random stuff, and we have a lot in common; we're both Christians, which is awesome She's even sent me a letter & a package in the snail mail! We've talked for months about meeting in person, and we really, really want to do this soon.

What do you think of long-distance relationships? Do you think they can be successful as long as both partners keep in touch often but still make the effort to see one another?

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They can be succesful, but complicated also. Good luck with yours.

Oh no. Your getting love advice from a 10 year old.

Roffle, Ninti.

Ya, I think Long distance relationships are fine, aqs long as both sides ar legit with each other. I know this person who was going out with this person who turned out to be nine.

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Your ten?!?!?!

I thought you where 21 based upon your proper grammer skills *blows up*

Anyway, my parents had a long distance relationship, and they are currently married today. So if you think it's best, there's no reasion not to do it.

P.S. As long as you stay in contact with each other

Long distance relationships are fine in my opinion, as long as you know exactly who you're talking to. Make sure you know who it is you're planning on meeting, if you two plan to get together. Also, make sure you meet in a public place, and maybe bring a friend along just in case, because you never know...

Long distance relationships will work, in my opinion, as long as frequent contact is made.

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Yeah, I certainly believe they can work just as well as regular relationships under the right circumstances, but I would think it has to take a lot of strength on the part of both people to stay apart for long periods of time. I know of at least one that has worked very well, and another that most likely would have if not for tragic circumstances.

1) One of my fellow online music reviewers from Michigan, Willie, had this random comment sent to him by this girl from Maine, and apparently many conversations, plane visits, etc. later, they're now engaged and living together.

2) One of my most recent friends, Rachael, somehow got into an LDR with David Reilly, the lead singer of God Lives Underwater, and they became so close, she ended up moving from Jacksonville, Florida all the way up to Philly to be with him after only her second or third visit up there. And last October, he ended up dying after falling into a coma, which he never came out of because his system was too weak from drug use. It's such a heartbreaking story. But at the same time, it's incredibly inspiring the way she's handling it while "starting over" with a new life in Philly, but that's a quite detailed, off-topic thing quite possibly for another thread.

Whenever I mention that I have a "long-distance" girlfriend, someone always says that she's really some random 40-year-old dude from Iowa.

But Christy & I have done Webcam Chat on Yahoo. Twice. The only other proof I need is meeting her in person, in the flesh.

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Long distance relationships are, like people have said, fine but complicated. I always told my sister that her friend from J-Date was a 60 year old Scandanavian .

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GENGHIS KHAN!!!!!

Yeah, I think the webcam thing would be more than convincing evidence that she's not that different from what she says, if at all. Just ignore whoever says things like that.

I really hope you two are able to go through with your meeting in the near future... that'll be so wonderful!

HEY!!

I'm from Iowa!



Well, you can never be too careful. She could be using holograms after all

Or I could be kidding

Best of luck to you Ian.

From my own personal experience, the people I've met online seem to be much more often than not who they really say they are. I mean, if I'm going to be honest with who I am online, and I know and talk to people I've already met IRL online and know that they don't falsify who they are online...then it stands to reason that other people I meet online are going to be just as honest about themselves as me and the others I already know for a fact aren't lying. It's just a statistical thing.

Moreover, my closest and dearest friends are all people I've met online. This includes my absolute closest friend in the world who visited me back last August for my 21st birthday...which TOTALLY rocked....as well as my boyfriend of almost 3 years, whom I have yet to meet IRL simply due to geographical and financial reasons (he lives in England, and I live in Texas, and neither of us have the funds to visit the other...yet).

And one more point: I could be mistaken about this, but from what I can figure, most people are only capable of faking themselves so far. True personality traits that are rooted within each individual are difficult to cover up or convey differently, unless you're a true master thespian or social engineer. So once you get to know someone for a while, even if they have lied to you about certain things, you can still trust that their overall personality is the same.

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The meaning of life is 'bucket.'

FOR PONY!!!

Wow, that makes--I think--three of us.

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I'm in a long distance relationship.

I can tell you that it isn't easy, and there are a lot of times you might wonder whether it's all worth it.

What you have to remember is to keep your eyes on the main goal of your relationship. If you want to be "forever", something I advise against until you've dated a couple of people, you'll be a little more willing to put up with some of the things that are bound to come up.

My relationship with Holly is further complicated by our schedules (especially mine).

It's not easy, and I can honestly say that, based on my experiences, a large number of LDR's end in failure. My friend Lois had something on her facebook about how distance is like the wind. If a relationship is weak (like a candle), it extinguishes it. If the relationship is like a fire, it makes it stronger.

I guess the best thing I can tell you is to be patient.

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If you can't fix it with a hammer, you have an electrical problem.

im in a whoel bunch of em. frankly, people are just too desperate.

i hate me.

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Hmm. I've found that long-distance relationships don't work for me, personally. Friendships, yes, but not romantic. But if you can make it work, more power to you!

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The Mu is NOT dead!

I was in one for 2 out of 4 years, with my one boyfriend. Mind you, the distance was only 20 minutes. It still made seeing each other complicated, since neither of us had a car (being the poor University students that we are). However, I found that it worked just as well as if we had lived in the same city. If anything, it makes the relationship that much stronger. Plus, when you finally get to see the person, it's a million times more special.

I say go for it. Just realize that it's going to take effort to keep it strong. Effort on behalf of both parties. It can't work if only one person is willing to make some sacrifices.

Good luck!

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-Krista

Here's my take. If you're going to be in a long-distance relationship, high school would not be the time to do it, mainly because you have less independence to arrange your own meetings.

I've been through my share (two) of long-distance relationships. I live in Bucks County, Pennsylvania (near Philly); the first girl lived in Massachussetts, the second in Virginia. Each lived about five hours away, just in opposite directions. Needless to say neither worked out.

The thing you need to remember is that it all depends on who the relationship is with. I totally believe that there is a perfect person for everyone, and things will work out for you to meet said someone. Now, if the long-distance relationship is with that person, it will almost definitely work out. However, there is a large probability that it will not if that person is not the someone just for you.

Edit: Oh yeah, this too.

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Yeah, I saw that. But I really, really, REALLY love Christy so much! I'm desperate to see her! I'm sending her a Valentine in the snail mail this year.

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Long distance relationships are awful... ._. Trust me. The only relationship I ever had was long distance, and it didn't turn out well...

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That's not really *that* long distance. Trans-atlantic would be REALLY long distance.

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I think long distance relationships can work, if you maintain constant contact. Like, if I wanted to, I could start a long-distance relationship with someone from here...
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But seriously, I'm happy for you, Ian, and hope it works out for the best for both of you.

My wife and I had a long distance relationship up until 2 months before the wedding.

It's working out so far.

Yes, me too. I wish you more luck than I had... =\

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i think they're fine, but i dont trust people from the internet

*shifty eyes*

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I think that they have the chance to work. I am, of course though, a romantic.

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They work as long as you stay commited. If one's needs change, or the day comes when you realize you may never meet or be able to be together in person, that could cause problems down the road.

My wife and I were doing a long distance thing whenever we first started dating. I met her in school, we hit it off, and then a few weeks later she had to move back to Wisconsin to graduate on time (I'm in Texas). That was in Nov/Dec '01. Then in may of '02 I recieved an email from her (thats how we kept in touch) that she wanted to be with me and eventually move back to Texas to be with me. We did the long distance thing from then until mid-July '02 and it worked great. First off, I was just glad to be with her, and secondly I knew it was temporary that we'd be apart. In retrospect, If she wouldn't have been willing to move here that could have caused huge problems.

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I had such a relationship briefly, and for a while we really wanted to work it out, but then we discovered that there was something else in the way. But that's a longish, personal story that I wouldn't want to bore you with here.

So, my take? LD friendships = definitely. I've got a lot of good online friends. LD relationships = probably. Snail mail is your friend, because even though letters take longer, while IMs are so blank and impersonal, letters radiate personality.

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You look like you need a hug.
*hug*
There, now don't you feel better?

I was in a long distance relationship once....

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I find this a bit funny, I went through the same thing about a year ago. In my case it didn't end that well but I do agree with what you've got laid out here. As long as 'yall communicate and act as if you lived down the street from each other it can turn out very well.

A little tip: If she starts talking about guys she knows, just chill out. Since you live so far away there's no way of knowing if she's been going out with them; in short trust her and she'll thank you for it.

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RIP Nathan "Buz" Buzdor

Aye, I remember that one from your livejournal. I'm still amazing that you two stayed together for as long as you did.

No long-distance relationships for me, thanks. But first chance I get, I'm driving up to JERRRRRRRRRRRRMYN and throwing a brick through Jitka's window. No foolin'.

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