Can kids fall in love?

Occasional JD · **Posted:** Sat Apr 29, 2006 11:25 am

This subject was brought up in a dating help thread a while ago, and it got me wondering, can children fall in love? The word love is overused today, and a lot of teenagers use the word without knowing what it means. However, out of all of them, surely there must be one couple that truly are in love.
Right now, I think I am in love. And while you may say that I am just a kid and don't know what I'm talking about, I have looked at other people who have supposedly been in love, and my relationship seems to be different to theirs. So what are your thoughts on the subject?

Schmelen · **Posted:** Sat Apr 29, 2006 11:29 am

Well, I think it's very possible. But unusual. Like we are not fully developed mentally and phisically, and that ought to have something to do with it. And I expect that most young love doesn't work out either.
DON'T BE DISCOURAGED! WE'LL BE FINE!

Seriously630 · **Posted:** Sat Apr 29, 2006 1:35 pm

The thing about this whole "controversy controversy

" is that most people don't know what it means. sixth graders at my school are going out with eachother. But this is purely so people will think they're mature enough to be like that. I don't think that a single kid can ever "fall in love" without being either melodramatic or worse, frankly. :mrgreen:

minib198 · **Posted:** Sat Apr 29, 2006 2:23 pm

I'm a kid myself in 7th Grade and people are going out with each other all over the place, including myself at one point. It really isn't "love" but more like talking more to each other and sitting by each other at lunch. Good times... Good times...

I mean, kids could REALLY actually be in love, but usually they just go out to be in the "in crowd".

Clever Danielle · **Posted:** Sat Apr 29, 2006 2:41 pm

Yes. They totally can. But what they think of as 'love' will probably differ from what a grown-up-type thinks of as 'love'. But, I think, "any kind of love, it's all all right!"

Steve · **Posted:** Sat Apr 29, 2006 3:05 pm

that is a toachy issue, love is so elusive to me, I don't even know if it exists. It also to me depends on the age of said kids, love mite not be love depending on the development of the mind of the person who says they are in love. Other than that, yes, they can be.

cyco · **Posted:** Sat Apr 29, 2006 3:21 pm

Someone that used to go to my church, met their wife in like, 6th grade....and they went out with eachother right up until the point he propossed, and they are still married today....

Kids CAN fall in love, but its not common. I think its that kids get so excited over a crush, and so little experiance with it all, they think "IM IN LOVE!" Why older people might understand it more, is becasue they have met more people....aside from the maturaty issue....

But I dont know if im in love or not... because with this girl, its different. yeah, thats about all you hear when kids say "this is why im in love..." but heres more...
see, I care about this girl so much, that I am willing to help her and some other dude go out, if it makes her happy. I still get jelous of course, but I encourage her to go out with other guys. I would much rather her like me, but I still help her with that stuff.

Thats why I think I might be in love....

Marshmallow Roast · **Posted:** Sat Apr 29, 2006 3:27 pm

Of course kids can love. That doesn't mean they always do. A lot of them are just turds who will go out because they want a boyfriend or girlfriend as a status symbol. But other than that, if you're going out, you are almost definitely in love. :rolleyes:

Steve · **Posted:** Sat Apr 29, 2006 3:30 pm

One of the songs of Merlin: in order to truly protect somthing, you must let it go.

Your story makes me cry......I mean.....It's good you're willing to do that, I hope she sees your love one day. I give you my best wishes man........(sobbing)..............(more sobbing)..It's so beautiful........

(this is for Cyco)

Steve · **Posted:** Sat Apr 29, 2006 3:36 pm

I don't know any girls, I know of them, I talk to some, but I don't have any friends that are girls. This may be why I am not so good with the ladies, I fall in and out of what is missconstrude as love all the time. It's more like a fassination, not live. Jeez, I'm 16 years of age and never even huged a non-family member or friend(I have two friends that are girls, they think my poetry is brillyant. They make fun of my love notes that I write sometimes too[not to them, but to every current facination]). Ever realy feel pittiful?

Choc-o-Lardiac Arrest · **Posted:** Sat Apr 29, 2006 8:48 pm

Steve · **Posted:** Sat Apr 29, 2006 9:03 pm

explain...

Code J · **Posted:** Sat Apr 29, 2006 10:28 pm

Yes, yes they can. Many young couples are totally fake, but yes, it is very possible, and happens all the time.

Alexander · **Posted:** Sat Apr 29, 2006 10:32 pm

Yes, very much so.

Occasional JD · **Posted:** Sat Apr 29, 2006 10:36 pm

Code J wrote:

Yes, yes they can. Many young couples are totally fake, but yes, it is very possible, and happens all the time.

See, that's what I think. For the majority of people, it is not love, and as Myrrh said, they are just using it as a status symbol. But out of all of them, there must be at least one couple who are in love. I see no reason why age should matter when it comes to true love. Sure, older people will understand it more, but it's still there.

topofsm · **Posted:** Sun Apr 30, 2006 3:44 am

I dunno. I haven't truly fallen in love yet, and I'm 14. I think people my age and under are dating to try and fit into the adult culture. Just look at the influence of drugs, sex, violence and alchohol upon our younger culture made by the adults.

Shippinator Mandy · **Posted:** Sun Apr 30, 2006 5:14 am

Yes.

All I know is this: When I talk to my boyfriend on the phone, I feel very awkward and I blush majorly. I've had crushes, but I've never felt like that before this.

Steve · **Posted:** Sun Apr 30, 2006 5:53 am

oohh, this thread is so cute! Love is such a fun thing to talk about with people that can't see, hear or judge you.

extremejon09 · **Joined:** Mon May 10, 2004 10:28 pm **Posts:** 4675

Eh, Can't really say. I mean, I guess "Love" Between kids would be more of a "I saw the people on tv be in "Love" so I will too" Kind of thing. I dunno, Up until 8th grade I was stuck in a emotional little autismic shell... I mean, I guess I had a girlfreind in 3th grade (Even though I didn't really know what was going on... I kind of assumed girlfreind meant a girl that was a freind) and I stalked a girl 6-7 grade...

Aaaand shutting up.

Rogue Leader · **Posted:** Sun Apr 30, 2006 2:29 pm

Meh, it's possible.
Possible, but usually when we say we love each other, we are just fooling ourselves.

Ninti · **Joined:** Sat Nov 12, 2005 5:35 pm **Posts:** 3094

Shippinator Mandy wrote:

Yes.

All I know is this: When I talk to my boyfriend on the phone, I feel very awkward and I blush majorly. I've had crushes, but I've never felt like that before this.

When I talk to Holt in person, he's always teasing me for blushing so much. I can't freakin' help it. It's not that it's hard to talk to him, I just blush to much.

So, can children fall in love?

Yes. And I do believe I have. I've had crushes before, but as Mandy said, I've never felt this way about a person before.

And I don't plan on "going out", as many kids misuse that phrase in my school, but it would just be nice to know that we like each other.

Acekirby · **Posted:** Sun Apr 30, 2006 6:32 pm

Code J wrote:

Yes, yes they can. Many young couples are totally fake, but yes, it is very possible, and happens all the time.

Capt. Ido Nos · **Posted:** Sun Apr 30, 2006 6:59 pm

I think that it is possible, but not likely, and probably not practical. Ooph, that sounded rather pessimistic/cynical (non-intentional, peoples). My reasoning is that, well, MOST everyone at that young age isn't quite old enough to be having a mature-type relationship with somebody, and they don't have the life experience as of yet that is needed to find that certain someone. And of course, if you're not old enough to drive yourself, things get kind of awkward.

I will say, though, it is possible, especially, considering that in older times individuals tied the knot at (for guys) 15/16 and (for girls) 13ish, at times. That was, of course, during times when people had to grow up fast and take on the family buisness, and many marraiges were-prearranged as well. Today, when peole don't need to grow up as fast, and live longer anyway, there's no need for that, but feelings can still occur.

Plus, this is all under the disclaimer of *most cases* and also the *it depends on the person* tag. It is important, though, that one thinks about how feasible having a significant other (in terms of b/g f) is. You have to take into consideration of time, money, maturity, and all sorts of other things. I, personally, decided just to steer clear of the whole mess until I was older, and just let the Big Guy upstairs take care of things until his for me time was right.

The Zephyr Song · **Posted:** Mon May 01, 2006 12:34 am

"Love" is an undefinable term. If you ask a hundred people, regardless of age, what love is, you will get a hundred different answers. This is why I dislike parents/grandparents who scoff when their kid/grandkid claims to be in love with someone. I'm sure this conversation has taken place in -someone's- home on here:

Kid: I'm in love with so-and-so.
Parent: Oh, you don't even know what love is.

That annoys me. Yes, Kid does know what love is, on his/her level. When you're a toddler, love is pretty much equated with mommy and daddy. A scant 12 years later and mom and dad are more connoted with hate, but that's the teens for you. Kids do know what love, hate, friendship, enmity, pain, pleasure, fun, and fear are, from the moment they become aware of their surroundings. They can only put into words what any of those are based on their experience and frame of reference.

And that's my two cents.

Kevin DuBrow · **Posted:** Mon May 01, 2006 1:45 am

No. Kids don't know what it is like to be in love. I don't. I've dated girls that I liked or enjoyed their company, but I didn't "love" them. When you find the person that you love, you will know.

extremejon09 · **Joined:** Mon May 10, 2004 10:28 pm **Posts:** 4675

nintendogs123 wrote:

Shippinator Mandy wrote:

Yes.

All I know is this: When I talk to my boyfriend on the phone, I feel very awkward and I blush majorly. I've had crushes, but I've never felt like that before this.

When I talk to Holt in person, he's always teasing me for blushing so much. I can't freakin' help it. It's not that it's hard to talk to him, I just blush to much.

So, can children fall in love?

Yes. And I do believe I have. I've had crushes before, but as Mandy said, I've never felt this way about a person before.

And I don't plan on "going out", as many kids misuse that phrase in my school, but it would just be nice to know that we like each other.

AWWWWWWW

*MEGAHUG*

cyco · **Posted:** Mon May 01, 2006 1:59 am

The Zephyr Song wrote:

"Love" is an undefinable term. If you ask a hundred people, regardless of age, what love is, you will get a hundred different answers.

http://www.rinkworks.com/said/kidlove.shtml

True, true....

I seriously dont know what to think of love right now...Its just bottled up in me, and I cant handle it...I feel like I have to just tell her... But last time, I nearly ruined our relationship because I took it too far....I would tell her so much, she started feeling so awkward around me...Its still not the same as before...
Its so hard, I feel like I cant do anything about it. I wish I could tell her how i feel, without making everything awkward between us, just to let her know i still love her...

I really really belive kids can fall in love, because im still a kid...and this is deffinatly love... a "crush" wouldnt make let me give up so much of my life just for this person. (seriously, just because of her i went from homeschooling, to going to high school... and to do that i had to, and still have to, test out of a bunch of tests, which meaned studying every single day, for about...5 hours....just because i wanted to be with her more than once a week, at church...and im more than happy i did)

Well, I guess that ramble helped a little.

topofsm · **Posted:** Mon May 01, 2006 3:28 am

I feel that once someone finds adolescence, they can truly love someone. After all, that is why all those "changes" are going on.

I know someone(my 12 year old brother's best friend) who is going out with someone else(my 10 year old sister's good friend). My parents think they are too young.

Einoo T. Spork · **Posted:** Mon May 01, 2006 3:38 am

The Zephyr Song wrote:

And that's my two cents.

Your two cents is worth a million bucks.

Really. I didn't make a "funny", I made a "clever".

ready for prime time · **Posted:** Mon May 01, 2006 4:31 am

*snort*
sure they can. there's this girl that was in my class who had a boyfriend in year 3.

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